Welcome to the third and final post in the 3 Keys to Making 2019 Your Best Year Ever series! Here’s quick recap…
The BIG IDEA: Before you can have any chance at setting goals that truly work for you, there are three key elements that need to exist in your life in 2019.
In Part 1 of 3 Keys to Making 2019 You Best Year Ever, we explored element #1: An Identity to Change. Focusing on the “who” before the “what” challenges you to shift the belief behind the behavior, and this causes you to think differently about yourself. Identity shapes actions.
In Part 2, we explored element #2: A Discipline to Start. By starting with small, simple disciplines–making your bed, drinking a glass of water–over time, you train your mind to think differently about yourself.
Here’s the third and final element:
3. The Courage to Stop
This may sound paradoxical–even heretical–to an achievement-oriented person. But to accomplish more, you actually need to do less.
As author Craig Groeschel puts it, “The key is not doing more, it is doing more of what matters.”
The challenge is, if you’re honest with yourself, there are some really good things–worthy, even altruistic activities you’ve done for years–that no longer serve their original purpose in your life.
Any of the following sound familiar?
• A volunteer role or committee you’ve served on that you’re no longer excited about.
• A long-standing business or personal relationship that needs to change.
• A routine that once served you that you’ve outgrown but continue to perform out of habit.
If you’ve ever grown fruit like apples or peaches, then chances are you understand the value of pruning. The pruning process involves the regular removal of branches. By cutting less productive limbs, the trees actually produce more fruit. It’s the same in your life: You only have so much time and energy every day to accomplish your most important priorities. If you’re going to say “yes” to new habits and productive disciplines, you must learn to prune–and say “no” to the less important.
What is discipline you need to find the courage to stop?
From Part 2, what is one discipline you want—or need—to start?
From Part 1, how can you reframe one of your main goals to focus on the “who” (the identity) before the “what” (the behavior)? How can this shift help you better define–and achieve–who you want to become this year?
As you consider all the possibilities for your life in 2019 in your journey to becoming the best version of yourself, I encourage you to spend some focused time reflecting on who you want to become this year. I’d love to hear your thoughts and feedback on the questions posed in all three parts of this series.