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Learn To Be Lucky

Happy St. Patrick’s Day! This time of year, luck is often top of mind — have you ever wondered why some people seem to live charmed lives, full of lucky breaks, while others fall victim to one misfortune after another?

In his landmark book, The Luck Factor, Professor Richard Wiseman from the University of Herefordshire in England, answers this question, coming to the promising conclusion that luck — good or bad — is purely a state of mind.

Wiseman exhaustively researched the beliefs, habits, and experiences of more than 400 people over several years. His findings: Luck is not the result of random chance, nor are people born lucky or unlucky. Instead, luckiness can be predicted by examining people’s patterns of thinking and behavior. In other words, luck can actually be learned. Here are four core principles underlying lives of good fortune.

1) Lucky people create chance events. They are adept at noticing and finding ways to act upon chance opportunities. They tend to be relaxed and open, often discovering possibilities well beyond what they were looking for. Unlucky people, by contrast, are more tense and myopic and avoid taking risks, preferring to stay in their comfort zones.
2) Lucky people produce success by relying on their intuition. They tend to go with their gut instincts while unlucky people tend to rely more on logic.
3) Lucky people expect good things to happen. They create self-fulfilling prophecies through positive expectations, knowing what they want and reinforcing it through positive, affirming self-talk. (They tell themselves how lucky they are.) By contrast, unlucky people tend to dwell on what they don’t want… which often turns out to be exactly what they get.
4) Lucky people display a high level of resilience that transforms bad luck into good luck. Wiseman’s lucky subjects were extremely persistent, while their unlucky counterparts gave up at the first signs of struggle.

One of the most striking contrasts from Wiseman’s research was the difference in how his lucky subjects re-framed unfortunate experiences compared to unlucky folks. Wiseman explains:

“I decided to present lucky and unlucky people with some unlucky scenarios and see how they reacted. I asked lucky and unlucky people to imagine that, while waiting in line in a bank, an armed robber enters, fires a shot, and the bullet hits them in the arm. Would this event be lucky or unlucky? Unlucky people tended to say that this would be enormously unlucky and it would be just their bad luck to be in the bank during the robbery. In contrast, lucky people viewed the scenario as being far luckier, and often spontaneously commented on how the situation could have been far worse. ‘It’s lucky because you could have been shot in the head — also, you could sell your story to the newspapers and make some money.”

As Wiseman’s research reveals, the differences between lucky and unlucky people have nothing to do with blind chance. Perhaps most encouraging, luckiness can be learned, a claim the author backs up by creating a “luck school” in which he coaches previously unlucky people to adopt measurable, luck-building behaviors. The results, according to Wiseman’s research, are dramatic. “Eighty percent of the ‘luck school’ students are now happier, more satisfied with their lives and, perhaps best of all, luckier.”

So, if you want good fortune, start telling yourself how lucky you are, act upon chance events, trust your instincts, and persistently go after your goals!

What is your reaction to Wiseman’s findings? What are your beliefs about luck? Do you consider yourself to be superstitious? (According to a 1996 Gallup Poll, 25% of Americans claimed to be somewhat to very superstitious.) Did anything in Wiseman’s research surprise you? If you lived out these four “luck-building” principles consistently, what would it mean to your personal brand… and to your life?

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5 Ways Reading Will Make You A Better Version of Yourself

Ever since I was a kid, I’ve been an avid reader. It started with magazines like Time and Sports Illustrated as a teenager, then evolved to include biographies, self-help, the Bible, business books and, occasionally, novels. As a self-described content addict–I even listen to podcasts while mowing the lawn–consistent reading has been an integral part of who I am. And among the many benefits, reading has helped me build my personal brand.

There are few life skills as important to personal development as reading. As author and business consultant Bill Zipp puts it…

Reading forces us to think. Really think. It compels us to consider different—sometimes radically different—perspectives. And reading provides us an inexhaustible resource of ideas and insight, wit and wisdom.

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If you’re looking to build your own personal brand, I believe that developing the habit of reading is indispensable. Here are 5 ways reading will propel you on your journey to becoming the best possible version of yourself:

1) Reading is linked to lifetime success.
According to a recent article in the Traverse City Record Eagle by the Education Trust-Midwest, the development of reading skills in elementary school children is vital to their development. “(It is) a predictor of everything from high school graduation and college success to long-term employment.” In other words, if you want your kids to succeed in life, helping them become avid readers is perhaps the single best thing you can instill in them.

2) Reading improves your Emotional Intelligence.
Defined as the ability to identify, understand, and harness your emotions to improve relationships, Emotional Intelligence, or EQ, is responsible for 58% of your success, according to research from TalentSmart. Biographies and novels help provide insights on human nature that, according to many CEO’s, has made them more empathetic and relational—two critical attributes of EQ. I can attest to that; in fact, in an earlier post, I shared how an article on Peyton Manning inspired me to start writing personal thank you notes to my employees, a leadership habit I’ve maintained for years.

3) Reading keeps your brain young and healthy.
Reading produces the same positive benefits to your brain that working out delivers to your body. According to a detailed study reported in Prevention, adults who engaged in reading and other creative or intellectual activities showed a 32 percent slower rate of cognitive decline later in life than those who did not. Another recent study found that older adults who regularly read or play mentally challenging games like chess or puzzles are two and a half times less likely to develop Alzheimer’s disease.

4) Reading increases your influence.
Ask any effective leader and chances are they will share how reading has leveraged virtually every other skill. I have found that my consistent reading habit has helped me develop my writing, speaking and facilitation skills, all of which are important tools of leadership.

5) Reading improves your vocabulary.
Researchers estimate that 5–15% of all the words we learn we learn from reading. If you want to positively influence others, using the right language to cast vision, set direction, and simplify complex issues is critical.

“That sounds great… but I just don’t have the time to read.”

This is the most common excuse whenever the issue of reading comes up. My response, as I share in one of my presentations, is:

Imagine if, on New Years’ Day, I handed you a stack of 16 books with a challenge to read all of them by the end of the year. Chances are, you would either laugh at me or tell me to get serious. But what if, on January 1st, you committed to reading just 15 pages a day, which, depending on the content, might take anywhere from 5 to 20 minutes. Allowing for two weeks off, by year end, you would have read 5,250 pages. And since the average book on Amazon.com is approximately 325 pages, you would have complete all 16 books and even started on a 17th book.

That’s the power of the Slight Edge–an excellent book on habits by Jeff Olson.

It also illustrates a parallel principle: the power of consistency. That is, consistent actions repeated daily. Before I learned this important insight, most of my reading happened on a plane, where I would cram in as much content as I could until the next time I traveled (which wasn’t very often). When I finally started to think in terms of small, incremental actions repeated consistently instead of occasional big moves toward my goals, my reading exploded. Today, I complete between 15 and 25 books a year–in the midst of a pretty busy schedule.

Consistency is one of the most overlooked forces not only in developing a reading habit, but in living the life you really want.

If you want to become the best version of yourself in 2017, reading is one of the surest paths to get there. It will help you develop important qualities that will have a disproportionate impact on every other area of your life.

Question: How many books did you read last year? What would it take for you to double your reading in 2017?

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Ten Keys to Creating a High-Growth Environment

Last week, during a stimulating conversation with a rising young leader in our company, I used the word “successful” multiple times in sharing my thoughts with him about work/life balance.

“How do you define success?” he replied.

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Despite the predictability of the question, I found myself momentarily flummoxed by his inquiry. Resisting the urge to respond with some hackneyed definition (“Success is the progressive realization of a worthwhile goal!”), I recalled a speech on professional growth by leadership author John C. Maxwell in which he described, as a young leader, the privilege he had of working in what he called a “high growth environment” and how it shaped his success throughout his career. He shared these ten qualities:

  • Others are ahead of you.
  • You are continually challenged.
  • Your focus is forward.
  • The atmosphere is affirming.
  • You are often out of your comfort zone.
  • You wake up excited.
  • Failure is not your enemy.
  • Others are growing.
  • People desire change.
  • Growth is modeled and expected.

As you read through these ten attributes shared by high growth organizations, what is your initial reaction? Do you identify with them, or are you thinking, “not in my wildest dreams?” What does it say about the work you do, the people you work with, and the leaders who set your pace? Is it unrealistic to expect a work culture that produces all ten of these? Why or why not? Finally, what would it mean to your organization–and to your personal life–to create or to fortify an environment like this where people are actively engaged in the deliberate pursuit of growth? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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Are You Failing Enough to Succeed?

In a recent issue of SUCCESS Magazine, editor Darren Hardy recounted how, as a young man launching a career in real estate in the early 1990’s, he fell in love with what he calls the “F-Word.”

“I attended my first real estate conference where I asked the speaker to lunch and pumped for his best advice on how to be successful in real estate,” Hardy explained.

He was not prepared for the answer.

“Go fail,” he shot back.  “Your goal is to out-fail the competition. Whoever can fail the most, wins.”

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Most of us have been taught to believe that the whole idea of success is to avoid failure, not embrace it. But as Hardy discovered and now passionately extols, it’s quite the opposite.

“From the day I started to follow that advice as a 20-year old kid in a hyper-competitive real estate market during one of the worst downturns in decades, I discovered that the volume, speed, and size of my failure also increased the volume, speed and size of my success. It started a lifelong love affair with failure.”

When I first read Hardy’s comments, I wasn’t sure if I agreed with him or not. I understand the value of learning from your mistakes and how many breakthrough successes have come through failure and adversity. But the idea of embracing failure–looking for ways to screw up–seemed excessive, if not reckless.

In the months since I first read this article, although I can’t say I see myself “falling in love with failure,” I’ve come to understand the value of embracing failure and the role it can play in experiencing success–in three ways.

  1. Most great leaders don’t succeed in spite of failing, but because of it. Many of the most storied achievements in business were the direct result of failure.  As Michael Hyatt described in his story on the founding of Groupon in 2008, one man’s dogged persistence in the face of a major setback created a massively successful business model that was completely unintended. History is littered with similar stories of harnessing failure to produce breakthrough opportunities.
  2. Embracing failure compels you to live at the edge of your comfort zone. Failure exposes you; it forces you to put yourself “out there” risking embarrassment and even shame. But like a muscle that gets sore the first time you exercise it, eventually you get stronger as you develop a lifestyle centered around “being comfortable being uncomfortable.” People who live this way, I’ve observed, experience a greater level of joy and fulfillment than those who embrace self protection.
  3. Most of the truly important things in life lie on the other side of failure.  I recently read a profound comment from a blog post on responding to adversity that illustrates the personal impact of embracing failure: “I like to believe that throughout my failures, I have learned to be more patient, giving, slower to get angry, slower to freak out about the things that are not life-threatening. I hope to continue to grow in that way, and of course to continue to fail because that is just inevitable.”  What a refreshing perspective on failure.

Although I honestly don’t believe I will ever be comfortable actively pursuing failure, I have definitely developed a greater appreciation for the role it plays in shaping me as a leader.

What about you? How do you view failure and what would, instead of avoiding it, intentionally embracing failure make possible in your career–and in your personal life?

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