A few years ago, I read an article by Glenn Stanton in The Federalist summarizing some fascinating research on the pursuit of social justice, which remains one of the most hotly debated topics in American society.
According to this research, the biggest difference-maker in achieving meaningful progress in social initiatives like income equality, educational success, upward mobility, mental and physical health, and personal happiness isn’t exactly revolutionary, non-traditional, or innovative.
It’s marriage.
The well-documented, decades-long research confirms that getting and staying married is the most important ingredient not only in rising above poverty but also in making a positive and defining difference in the world, regardless of race, ethnicity, or social status.
While that probably sounds like the typical conservative Republican narrative on solving the vexing problems surrounding social inequality, the research totally transcends political divides.
For example, Jonathan Rauch, a liberal writer for the National Journal, wrote that “marriage is displacing both income and race as the great class divide of the new century.”
This conclusion was echoed by the Brookings Institution (not exactly a conservative group) which declared that “the proliferation of single-parent households accounts for virtually all of the increase in child poverty since the early 1970’s.”
I remember hearing about a 1990’s article by Professor Bill Galston, domestic policy advisor in the Clinton Administration, in which he shared three important but very simple steps every young American needs to follow to avoid poverty:
- Graduate from high school.
- Marry before having a child.
- Marry after the age of 20.
People who follow all three steps, he reported, have a 92% chance of avoiding poverty. According to recent research by the Brookings Institution and American Enterprise Institute, it remains largely true today.
As author and social critic Eric Metaxis reports on the Break Point Podcast, none of this should really come as a surprise:
“The family is one of the foundational building blocks of any society. It is where children are born and raised, men and women encourage and bring out each other’s best, traditions are made and passed on, and where belief in God is first transmitted and lived out.”
In his Federalist article, Stanton makes a similar, compelling point about the pervasive influence of strong marriages on broader society:
“Today, many unfortunately believe that to be concerned about what kinds of families adults create and raise children in should be no one’s business. It’s a personal matter. Such people have no idea what a family is or does anthropologically. Each family is as much a public institution as is it private, if not more so. It’s strength and weaknesses are felt throughout each community in countless ways. Government expands as marriage declines.”
In sharing these conclusions, I am in no way suggesting that public policy through government involvement has no place in addressing social justice. It certainly does.
But we live in an age in which the institution of marriage is under attack as modern culture redefines its very meaning while greater numbers of young people ignore it.
And yet, as Metaxis points out, in light of the fact that so many in our society decry the lack of progress in “social justice,” there is clearly a connection many seem to ignore.
For the past 11 years, I have been privileged to be a Foundation Board member for our local community college (one of the highest-rated in the nation). The mission of the college, shared at nearly every meeting, is to equip students to create social and economic wealth in their lifetimes.
And while access to education plays a significant role in the pursuit of this worthy and inspiring mission, strengthening marriage, an institution that dates back to the dawn of history, may well be the most important mission of all.
Did you grow up with examples of strong marriages in your life? Or marriages that weren’t so strong and healthy?
What influence do you feel these marriages had on your own relationships, both growing up and into adulthood?
I’d love to hear your feedback.
Thanks Bill —
The degradation of families as a social structure traces back decades, and with a broad range of negative effects on children and adults. Speaks to the inequalities that haunt American culture and the associated effects from education, healthcare and employment disruptions that originate at the family level. True across the racial and cultural spectrum.
1965 Report — Daniel Patrick Moynihan put this challenge to Congress way back when
Great insights Bill.
The primary reason that marriage is under such an attack socially, as perhaps the most important institution in society, is because of what it represents in terms of a person’s relationship with God.
Union otherwise known as peace is the biblical narrative of what Jesus came to offer us as human beings. The original source declarations concerning his coming are good news, great joy, all the people – glory to God in the highest and on Earth peace, there’s that word peace, to mankind on whom his favor rests.
The Bible describes peace as Union and Union is what is most captivated in the marriage relationship – two become one
Why does any of this matter? Because this is what God offers each one of us, a relationship of Peace, a relationship of Union, a relationship like each one of us being married to God.
How bizarre is that?
It’s referred to as mystery and mystery it will always be. But just because it’s mystery does not mean it’s not true. It is perhaps the greatest truth that the foundation of our lives individually are meant to be built upon. It’s supposed to be the cement in the foundation in each of our lives.
So marriage as a social institution is analogous with marriage is a spiritual constitution and foundation.
But don’t take my word for it. Just read the words of Jesus in The book of John and you will be amazed!
He’s the greatest iconoclast of our time!
Thank you for such a rich, thoughtful, and theologically sound reply, What a beautiful description of the depth of God’s love for us expressed in the marriage covenant.
Steve. Socially, when I consider the assaults on marriage and the devastating cultural impact, I’m reminded of a quote from John Stonestreet, “Ideas have consequences…and bad ideas have victims.”
Bill